“I think I want to sell my house,” Dad casually commented on the phone. Even after my phone call with my father ended, I didn’t realize how much life was going to change. I figured that this was a temporary situation that would resolve itself in a matter of weeks. But, life never went back [...]
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Family Caregiving Videos
An Alzheimer’s patient wants to drive his car again. What does the family do? Mom had a stroke and is recovering but things are not the same. How does the family cope? Why do you, as the family caregiver, feel guilty when you take an hour for yourself? In my wanderings through links on Twitter, [...]
Love Grapefruit? Beware Drug Interactions
By CK Wilde for 3GenFamily Blog February is National Grapefruit Month. It is peak season for these luscious pink and ruby beauties. Our local supermarkets are offering specials on Texas grown varieties. If you haven’t tried a grapefruit in a long time, you will be pleasantly surprised to discover that you don’t need to put [...]
Does Your Parent Need A Cell Phone For Emergencies? Here’s The One.
Dad rarely travelled outside of a 10 mile radius of his home. The one or two times each year that he needed to go farther, he would enlist someone to drive with him. So, I never pressed the issue of getting a cell phone for emergencies. When I showed him my newest phone, he [...]
Thanksgiving With Dad — How Do You Convince Someone to Accept Help?
The mood was relaxed and happy on the five hour flight from California to New Jersey. It was Thanksgiving Day. The sun was just beginning to set on what must have been an unseasonably warm day on the East Coast. I smiled to myself. The plane had arrived ahead of schedule. I would be at my father’s home in [...]
How To Help Your Aging Parents – Medical Billing
It wasn’t until Dad mailed me the collection notice that I realized he was losing his ability to track and pay his medical bills. He had complained during our phone chats on several occasions that the hospital had messed up his billing. They kept phoning him to get him to pay his bill. He insisted that [...]
Where to Start When The Doctor Says Its Dementia
It was during a phone call five years ago with my Dad’s primary care doctor that the “D” word first came up. Dad was in the hospital, again. He had gastro-intestinal bleeding which the specialists had finally stopped — but not before a series of delirious outbursts about certain marital secrets that had his second wife shouting that [...]
Thank You OurAlzheimers.com!
When I launched 3GenFamily Blog on WordPress.com, it was with the intention of sharing a wide variety of issues and ideas about long distance caregiving to help others traveling the same road. I’ve tried to focus on substantive information rather than just telling stories of life caring for an elder with dementia. When I first started searching for answers to my [...]
Is It Time for an Estate Planning Checkup for Your Parents or You?
Is your family like most others? Have your parents (or you) done some estate planning (see below for resources) and then filed the documents away to gather dust and cobwebs until they are needed? Why do I ask? Because if an illness or accident suddenly happened, you just might discover that those documents are out of [...]
Is Your Parent Afraid of Running Out of Money in Retirement (Part 2)
How much money does a 83 year old need to have in savings to avoid running out of money in retirement? In a previous post (Is Your Parent Afraid of Running Out of Money in Retirement -Part 1), I described how my 83 year old father was living in abject terror of having his money run out before he [...]
